Monthly Archives: March 2015

My phoenix is not just for fashion

My phoenix is not just for fashion

My phoenix is not just for fashion

I had a revelation the other day. It happened while I was trying to comfort a friend after the recent passing of her mother.

During our chat, I told her that there was a fine line between sadness and resentment. I was hopeful that she would eventually see that there’s a lesson in every trial and that maybe one day her testimony would be a blessing to someone who really needed it.

Afterward, I thought to myself: Where the heck had that comment come from? What had I meant when I used that word resentment?  Then suddenly it hit me.

For the first time in 14 years, I realized that I had finally let mine go.

When my friend described the struggle she was going through – balancing the sadness of losing both her parents within two years of each other with the envy she felt for close friends and family members whose parents were alive and well, I realized I had been harboring similar feelings after my youngest daughter had been born with Down Syndrome.

Both of my parents are still here, so I couldn’t pretend to understand exactly what my friend was feeling. But, I remembered with painful clarity getting the news about Sydney all those years ago. It felt like every dream a mother could possibly have for her daughter – recitals, school dances, first kisses and eventually, a wedding and kids of her own – just … died.

For years, I pretended in other ways, smiling through my sadness as I watched one girlfriend after the next give birth to big, healthy, beautiful babies. Of course, I would never openly begrudge them of their happiness. But in the darkest corners of my mind, I kept asking myself, Why me?  Why did this have to happen to my child? Was I being punished?

I just wanted to have a normal experience. Just like everybody else. But, the normalcy I had envisioned for me and my growing family came to a sudden halt on that day, along with all the other hopes and dreams I originally had. And, frankly, it pissed me off.

As I tried to both council and comfort my friend that day, I relayed my experiences and had a shocking realization. I wasn’t holding on to the anger anymore. On the contrary, I felt incredible joy.

Only after my talk did I realize that I had spoken of the things Sydney could do rather than the things she could not. I told my friend about all my daughter had gained, not what she’d lost. I told her that I was grateful to be her mom and I meant it.

The breakthrough that I’d wanted for my daughter all those years ago actually turned out to be one I needed more. That’s why I wear the Phoenix Charm Bracelet by Alex and Ani. It’s a reminder to me that no matter what, a new day is coming.

Now that I think about it, “normal” may not be the best route for me after all. And, you know what? I’m okay with that. And, this time, I’m not just pretending.

Love U! It’s not just a declaration. It’s a call to action. XoXo -Quin

 

 

I’m a square! What your nail shape says about you

I’m a square! What your nail shape says about you

I’m a square! What your nail shape says about you

Nails definitely aren’t the first thing you notice about a person; in fact, unless they’re extremely flashy or pointed out, most people don’t notice them at all. What most people don’t know is that the shape of your nails can actually say a lot about you and your style. Below there will be six different types of nail shapes described.

Stiletto

Stiletto nails are the newest trend in nails. They’re long and pointy at the tip. People who sport this style of nail are conscious of all the trends and don’t mind being in the spotlight.

Square

This shape isn’t as subtle as other shapes can be. People who sport this style aren’t afraid to try new things, and they tend to go with experimental or statement styles as well.

Almond

This nail shape is similar to stiletto nails, but it’s rounded out at the tip instead of pointy. Those who sport this style are modern, care about quality, and avoid anything out dated or vintage.

Round

Round nail shapes are the most common and suit almost everybody. People who have this nail shape generally don’t like to try new things with their nails, although they’re very trendy with their clothing. Their nails tend to take a back seat rather than being the star.

Super-short

People have this type of nails tend to be extremely low-maintenance and put very little effort into their style. This tends to be the jeans and a t shirt type of person.

Squoval

This type of nail shape is a mix between square and oval. Those have this shape aren’t into experimenting, and have likely had this nail shape for a long time. Their wardrobe tends to be classic, matching their nails perfectly.

While nails aren’t the perfect indicator of who a person is or what type of style they have, it can be a good clue. So the next time you’re struggling to figure someone out, take a lot at their nails and see what they can tell you!

**This content was posted originally on Nov. 26, 2014 by Positivemed Miami.

Confessions of a change junkie

Confessions of a change junkie

Confessions of a change junkie

I’ve always had an amazing ability to adapt to change.  The idea of doing or trying something new and different just excites me.  As Winston Churchill once said, “To improve is to change; to be perfect is to change often.”

Sounds like the definition of flawless, if you ask me.

Anyway, I think adaptability was embedded in my DNA long before I was born. I’m a Scorpio. And, according to the Zodiac, we are some of the most flexible creatures on the planet.  We’ll try *almost* anything once.  When I think about how I live and the things I do, I realize there’s a lot of truth in it. And, it’s most evident when it comes to the way I look.

The older I get, the more I find myself looking in the mirror and finding fault with every little line, crease, indention and dimple I see. Sounds vain? Guilty! But, if I’m being honest, getting old sort of sucks. Of course, I’m grateful for every day I spend above ground. But, I want to look my best while I do it.

Being the change junkie that I am, I’m always on the hunt for ways to freshen my look. And, the idea of a little nip here and a tiny tuck there has crossed my mind on more than one occasion. But, I’m a ‘fraidy-cat when it comes to pain and honestly, I think I would struggle with surgically altering my God-given features for no reason other than pure vanity.

So, what’s the solution for literally changing my look in less than 30 seconds? Colored contact lenses! Specifically, Freshlook® Colorblends® by Ciba Vision in “Grey.” They are so much fun to wear! These lenses were developed to subtly enhance or change natural eye color and the “patented three-in-one color technology provides a natural-looking effect.”

I think these lenses more than deliver on their promise. What do you think?

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The reactions I get when I wear them are always so great. I find that it’s a real confidence-booster, too, much like wearing hair extensions or wigs are for other women.

If you’re not a contact lens wearer, you can always try eyelashes or new frames for your glasses – even if they’re not prescription.  Whatever you do, just take a chance because change is good!

Love U … It’s not just a declaration. It’s a call to action!  XoXo -Quin

To Jamaica with love

To Jamaica with love

To Jamaica with love

March is probably my favorite time of year. After a long, dull and dreary winter, it’s an opportunity for the universe to stretch its arms wide, take a deep, cleansing breath and get a fresh start. It’s literally a time of renewal.

Best of all, it’s the time of year when the hubby and I take our annual vacation to where else? Jamaica, of course!

For 51 weeks out of every year, we have responsibilities to our children, our church and our employers. For the last several years, though, we’ve been fortunate enough to take this one very special week and visit this beautiful land where we can focus exclusively on us and reconnect as a couple.

There’s so much beauty in Jamaica. I’m especially in awe of the majestic countryside and the strength of its people. When it comes to renewal, there’s no place I’d rather be.

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The place where beauty begins

The place where beauty begins

The place where beauty begins

It’s been a while since I’ve posted anything new to the blog and there’s a very good reason why: I wanted to do better.

Since I launched SisterLadyGirl four months ago, the response has been nothing short of phenomenal! Who would have thought that my li’l ol’ blog, created in response to comments about my hair and personal style, would become a spot where women like me actually went for real, everyday fashion and beauty advice? But, it has and I’m grateful.

But, along with my new status as a bona-fide beauty blogger, came a heightened sense of personal responsibility. I mean, if I’m going to ask readers to take time out of their busy schedules to check out what I have to say, I at least owe them content that they’ll find meaningful, real and above all else, useful.

That’s why I decided to step back and give myself a moment to think through the things that were important to me and to those women most like me. SisterLadyGirl will always be a place where the grown, classy and sassy woman can go for sensible style inspiration and advice about how to remain chic and “on fleek” in almost any situation, and not have to break the bank doing it.

For me, though, nothing makes living this life more worthwhile (and frankly, more beautiful) than doing it with faith-filled family and friends by my side. While my primary focus will remain on addressing the style needs of the African American Gen X woman, you’ll also see the occasional “reflections” about love, relationships, parenting and just about any other random thing that might be running through my mind.

In addition to the content, I’ve also made changes to the structure of the site, which hopefully will make reading the blog a more enjoyable experience.

As the fashion icon Coco Chanel once said, “Beauty begins the moment you decide to be yourself.” I’ve made my choice. What about you?

Thanks for hanging in there with me.

XoXo –Quin