Monthly Archives: September 2015

Wear it now and wear it later. How to transition your look effortlessly from one season to the next

Wear it now and wear it later. How to transition your look effortlessly from one season to the next

Wear it now and wear it later. How to transition your look effortlessly from one season to the next

Like most people, I don’t have a few extra thousand dollars lying around that I can earmark for buying an entire new wardrobe each season. So, ensuring the bucks that I do spend deliver the bang that I want sometimes requires a little planning and a lot of creativity.

When I’m searching for new wardrobe additions, I ask myself one very important question: How will it transition? In other words, can I wear it now while the weather is warmer and later when things (hopefully) begin to cool down? If the answer is no, then back on the rack it goes!

Fortunately, or unfortunately, depending on your perspective, Florida weather is fairly predictable. There’s only going to be about a month and a half of actual colder temperatures. Which means most of my wardrobe could be categorized as transitional.

It seems that 2015 has been the year of the jumpsuit. And, I totally get it. They’re cool, comfortable and very easy to dress up or down, which are all great attributes of most transitional pieces.

While I’m proud of my curvy body, I’m not super comfortable with having my “assets” on display, so I’ve typically steered clear of jumpsuits. But, this wide-legged beauty from The Loft made me rethink my position recently. The cut of this particular piece, I thought, really worked for my body type. The wider pant leg provides a bit of visual balance by helping reduce the appearance of curviness through the hip area.

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The light, tailored jacket I added is perfect for those cooler days. And, when the weather is steamy, I can pair this jumper with some open-toed gladiator heels and minimal jewelry for a nice after-work ensemble.

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Do you have some favorite transitional looks for fall? Tell me about them in the comments below.

JACKET: The Loft | JUMPSUIT: The Loft | GLADIATOR HEELS: BCBG | PUMPS: Steve Madden NECKLACE: Tiffany & Co. | BANGLES: Coach | WATCH: Coach | PURSE: Oldie buy goodie

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3 rules for a successful marriage that should be broken immediately

3 rules for a successful marriage that should be broken immediately

3 rules for a successful marriage that should be broken immediately

When I read other blog posts about the lessons people have learned after being married for some period of time, I’m always struck by two things: The advice being given is more often than not disappointingly similar and it’s coming from someone with fewer than two years of matrimony under their belt.

Don’t get me wrong. It’s not as if I think newly married couples don’t experience their fair share of ups and downs. Of course they do. But, are all these marrieds going through the exact same things at the exact same time? Of course they aren’t.

As the hubby and I prepare to celebrate 21 years of marriage in November, I started to think about all the advice I’d either heard or been given in my first few years of marriage and how glad I am that I didn’t follow a single piece of it.

I believe that all marriages are unique and there’s no such thing as a “one-size-fits-all” solution to the problems that so many people highlight as being common for married couples.  I try very hard never to discount the opinions of people who say marriage is hard, though.  As one of my favorite books, The Secret says, “thoughts are things.”  And, if you believe in something long and hard enough – whether it’s good or bad – eventually, that “something” will manifest itself in your life. Essentially, if you think married life is difficult, the odds are greater that you’ll eventually fall victim to that idea.

There are many very valuable lessons about marriage that I’ve learned over time. But, first I had to stumble and fall over a few commonly-held notions – like the ones below – about how to maintain a successful relationship.

  • Compromise is the key: This isn’t always the case. Especially if it means compromising your principles to make your partner comfortable. If they truly love you, they wouldn’t want you to do that either. There’s a reason why your partner was attracted to you in the first place. Maybe it was your drive, your zest for life, your compassion? Remember the “why”. Then hold onto it as if your marriage depends on it. Because, truthfully, it does. If I could, I would amend this piece of advice to say that “cooperation” or “negotiation” is the key. In all of our relationships, we are responsible for “teaching” people how to deal with us. If you stand for nothing, but lie down for anything, just know that you’re in affect helping your partner learn how to treat you. If that’s not the lesson you want to teach, then some course correction is in order. If you remember nothing else, take this to heart: the way you start your relationship will be the way it ultimately finishes.
  • Never go to bed angry: Hogwash. The phrase, “If you don’t have anything good to say, don’t say anything at all,” wasn’t expressed for nothing. Sometimes, talking doesn’t solve it. In fact, when I’m angry, it may even aggravate the situation. Walking away and giving yourself time to calm down isn’t a bad thing. With a new day comes a new perspective. So, if it means going to neutral corners – or in this case – separate rooms for the night, so be it.
  • Marriage is a partnership: There are varying degrees of partnership. There are silent partners, limited partners, and sole partners. I know, I know, this makes marriage sound like a business, right? But think about it. For any business to be successful, the roles of the workers have to be clearly defined. How else will you know that the work being performed is actually yielding results? The same can be said of a marriage. My hubby and I consult about EVERYTHING concerning our household. In that way, we do have a true partnership. But, make no mistake he is the absolute head – or in this scenario, the CEO – of the BrewCrew. He is responsible for making decisions for our family’s overall emotional, financial and spiritual stability. My role is to provide him with the input he needs to make good decisions. Let’s face it, individuals have their own opinions. If you’re performing the exact same role as your mate, I can guarantee that there will be confusion.  I believe this is the reason that the bible refers to the wife as a “helpmate,” which is a role I take very seriously.

Again, everything ain’t for everybody. If certain advice standards don’t work for your relationship, then stop trying to make fetch happen! At the end of the day, it’s about what’s going to make your home a happy one. And, even though it’s good to hear advice from others, you don’t have to follow it. Your path to success is exactly that … YOURS!

There’s nothing plain about this white tee

There’s nothing plain about this white tee

There’s nothing plain about this white tee

By far, one of the best wardrobe investments I’ve ever made is this simple white t-shirt. I call it an investment because that’s exactly what it is. It’s one of those staple wardrobe pieces that no woman should be without.

In a previous post, I shared that the mark of any good wardrobe staple is it’s function as well as it’s versatility. I think the simple white tee meets both of those standards beautifully.

I’ve heard lots of people describe the white t-shirt as plain, but there’s nothing further from the truth as far as I’m concerned.

When I think of the white tee, words like crisp, simple, and comfortable come to mind. But, plain? Never!

And, did I mention affordable?

Depending on taste, white t-shirts can be had for a variety of price points ranging from the very low to the moderately high. I picked up this 14th and Union v-neck for around $13 at Nordstrom Rack.

Overall quality is something I definitely value, so when necessary, I will spend a little more to make sure that what I’m buying will stand the test of time. This shirt that I bought about a year ago turned out to be a great buy because it was extremely affordable and it has held up surprisingly well.

On a recent “date night” with the hubby, I decided to pair this v-neck tee with my favorite pair of khaki cargo capris. In the end, it turned out to be the perfect outfit for a casual night out.

What’s your “go-to” piece when you’re out on the town? Let me know in the comments below.

T-SHIRT: 14th and Union (Nordstrom Rack) | CARGOS: SeanJohn | SHOES: Shu Shop | PURSE: Louis Vuitton | WATCH: Coach | BANGLES: Coach, Alex & Ani

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3 ways to style your favorite game day gear

3 ways to style your favorite game day gear

3 ways to style your favorite game day gear

In just a few short days, I’ll be attending my first college football game of the 2015 season! To say that I’m excited is the biggest understatement ever!

I love my college alma mater, Florida A&M University. I mean, I bleed orange and green! Well, not literally, but you get the picture. So any opportunity I get to rep my team’s colors, I’m all over it.

As I was scrolling through one of my social feeds the other day, I saw that FAMU is participating in the inaugural College Colors Challenge, which is part of the 11th annual College Colors Day celebration.

Since I’ve never been one to back down from a challenge, I decided to share my take on how to freshen up my game day gear and cheer my team on to victory in style.

What do you think? Did I meet the challenge? Let me know in the comments below.

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