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Gain maximum style with minimal effort: How to create a signature look that reflects who you are inside and out

Gain maximum style with minimal effort: How to create a signature look that reflects who you are inside and out

Gain maximum style with minimal effort: How to create a signature look that reflects who you are inside and out

A few days ago, a colleague approached me in the hallway and said, “You always look so put together!” I smiled politely and thanked her for her kind words. In my head, though, I was doing the dab like Cam Newton because that is EXACTLY the impression I want people to have of me!

You may be asking yourself, Why does the way I dress even matter? Well, believe it or not, what you wear gives other people insight into who you are. In fact, numerous studies have shown that appearance very much shapes other people’s perceptions of not only you as a person, but your financial success, intelligence, honesty and whether or not you’re suitable enough to hire or promote. So, when you think about it in those terms, what others believe about you really does matter.

So, the key question becomes: what do you want people to know about you?

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For the most part, when people look at me, I think they see a self-assured, polished and composed career woman.  How do I know this? Because they give me unsolicited positive feedback just like my colleague gave me, on an almost daily basis.

So, why am I telling you this? Certainly not to brag or cause envy. Actually, it’s quite the opposite. I’m telling you this because being a stylish standout isn’t as difficult or as time-consuming as you might think.  And, if I can do it, anyone can.

Over the last few weeks, I’ve been exploring the concept of signature style in posts like this and this. And, I was surprised to see that a lot of the women who commented had one of two main concerns: How to define their signature style and how to create a wardrobe that is simultaneously chic and comfortable.

Now, I’m not the edgiest style blogger on the block. But here’s the thing: I never claimed to be. In fact, when it comes to fashion sense, I am the antithesis of cutting-edge. As a busy professional, wife, mom and homemaker, I don’t want to think too hard about getting dressed in the morning, but I still want to look like I made the effort.

So, what’s my secret? Simple … I just know what I like. And, if you remember nothing else, remember this: At the heart of signature style is Y-O-U, so the style staples you select (those benchmark items that make you feel your most inspired, your most beautiful and your most confident) should reflect the type of person you are and the lifestyle you live.

So, who are you?

Well, I’ve created this checklist to put you on the path to uncovering your signature style! It includes examples of wardrobe staples that will help you understand, evaluate, clarify and edit your own personal style.

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Size does matter and here’s the reason why

Size does matter and here’s the reason why

Size does matter and here’s the reason why

(The top photo was taken before a proper bra fitting and the bottom photo was taken after.)

I have officially entered the stage in life that I like to refer to as the “annual visitation” phase. If you’re over the age of 40, then you know exactly what I’m talking about. For what equates to roughly two weeks of my life every year, I spend an inordinate amount of time coordinating appointments to get voluntarily poked and prodded by a variety of physicians specializing in a variety of fields.

During one of my most recent p-n-p sessions, my OB/gyn told me that the density of my breasts had started to change.

Say whaaaaaaat?

After noting the look of sheer horror on my face, she quickly went on to explain that breast density – a relatively normal phenomenon for most mature women – can be caused by a number of factors, including fluctuating estrogen and weight levels, as well as age.

A woman’s breasts are made up of fat, glands, lobes, ducts and other breast tissue which is supported by a network of ligaments contributing to perk and lift. Over time, those ligaments lose some of their elasticity, causing “the girls” to soften and sag.

Aging is inevitable and we can’t fight its effects any more than we can those of gravity. What we can do to combat the signs of aging, though, is update our wardrobe to include a few properly fitted bras that will give the illusion of having those perky, firm breasts we all remember so fondly from our 20s.

So, what does it mean to have a bra that’s properly fitted? Start with this checklist.

  1. Make sure you’re wearing the right size – A lot of women believe incorrectly that it’s the bra cup that provides the most support. In reality, it’s the band. If it’s too loose, the weight of the breasts will drag down the front. To avoid this very common mistake, have your measurements taken by a professional bra fitter or refer to the guide below to determine your perfect bra size.

Style Tip: Wearing a bra with a properly fitted band can eliminate “back fat,” and give you a smoother, more figure-flattering sillouette.

  1. Replace your bra on a regular basis – The useful life expectancy of most bras will run out at around 6-9 months. That’s an approximation, of course, depending on care and storage. But, the more you wear and wash your pieces, the more the elastic will stretch and the overall support will be lost. So, be sure to rotate wear among your bras to prolong the life.

Style Tip: To extend the life of your bra, be sure that it fits snugly (but not too snugly) on the loosest hook. Over time, your bra will stretch and as it does, you’ll be able to fit it on the tighter hooks, which, in effect will help prolong the life of the bra.

  1. Ensure proper care and storage for your bras – Always, I repeat, ALWAYS air dry your bra after washing it. The heat from a dryer can damage the memory of plastic underwire and elastic bands, causing your bra to lose support.

Style Tip: Rather than stuffing your bras into a lingerie drawer that’s probably already filled to the brim (guilty!) try placing your bra on a hanger in your closet. That way, you can ensure the integrity of the bra’s structure, which is especially important for molded/padded bras, which can dimple or pucker if the cup gets inverted in the drawer.

So, give your tatas the TLC they deserve and check out the guide below to help you determine your perfect bra size. It’s the first step toward achieving that sexy silhouette you’ve been looking for. And, don’t forget to subscribe to the newsletter below to get more style tips and advice.

Oh, and P.S. –  Be sure to have your breasts examined by a professional on a regular basis (in addition to your own self-examinations) because the more dense the tissue in your breasts, the more difficult it can be to detect a lump. Early detection is one of the best weapons we have to fight breast cancer.




Make sure you’re wearing your bra and wrap a tape measure firmly around your torso. Be sure that the tape measure falls directly underneath your breasts to get the correct band size.


Still wearing your bra, pull the tape measure firmly around the largest part of your bust to find your cup size.



What to wear to an R&B concert

What to wear to an R&B concert

What to wear to an R&B concert

When I heard that one of my favorite R&B artists was making a return visit to the Bay area, naturally my first thought was: What am I going to wear? This is all before I’ve even bought the first ticket! Talk about priorities, huh!

If you’ve ever been to an R&B concert, then you understand my conundrum. Like so many people who grew up in the 80’s, going to a concert was an event and the perfect opportunity to dress to impress.

So, what do you think of this Cyndi Lauper inspired ensemble? I think pairing denim with tulle gave me the perfect cross between being a little feminine and a little tough.

Let me know your thoughts in the comments below. Do you think I’ll make the fashion cut at the concert?