How do I get my hair to curl like this?

One of the main questions I get about my hair is: How do you get it to curl like that? My answer is: It’s all about the products and the method that they’re applied.

I find the process of styling my hair cathartic and could literally stand in front of the mirror all day trying out new looks. No matter what I try, though – from flat twists and blow outs to weaves and protective styles – I always tend to migrate back to the TWA (teeny weeny afro), featuring curls that are super-tight and well-defined. It just works for me.

So, how do I do it?

First, I start with freshly washed hair. I tend to get better results if I shampoo daily. Not everyone’s a fan of doing this, but the results I get – hardly any frizz and amazing shine – make the few extra minutes I spend on my daily hair routine well worth it.

Next, I spray Crème of Nature’s 7-in-1 Leave-in Treatment with Argan Oil all over the hair and gently massage it in. To detangle my hair, I sometimes will use a Denham brush but most times, my fingers will do the job just fine. It lessens the potential for causing damage to my hair.

In addition to helping maintain the moisture in my hair, Silk Elements Liquid Styling Gel gives me great shine. Even though I prefer my curls to be tight, I don’t like them to be “crunchy” and this product helps soften my hair and cut down on flaking once its completely dry. I take a quarter-sized drop and rub it between the palms of my hands. Then, I lightly pat the product into my hair and gently massage it in to ensure full coverage. I typically have my water bottle handy to make sure my hair doesn’t dry out during the application process.

The final product I use is Ecostyler Gel with Olive Oil. There are several different varieties, but I like the version that  provides maximum hold. During this time of the year when the weather in Florida can go from 40 degrees in the morning to 80 degrees in the afternoon, I need a product that can beat back the frizz and this one does the job beautifully.

To achieve my super-defined curly look, I use my fingertips to first pick apart then apply the gel to my strands. I don’t pat or massage it in like I do the other two products. I like to compare this method to the way people used to “grease” their scalps back in the day. The only difference is the gel is being applied to the hair rather than directly to the scalp. I simply continue this process until every curl is obviously defined.

Even though I consider these to be my “tried and true” products, the Scorpio in me loves the idea of change. So, drop a line in the comments section and let me know what products or styles “work” for you. You never know, I might find something new that works for me too!

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