Stuck in a style rut? Here are 5 easy things you can do right now to break free

I have a confession to make. I watch ratchet T.V. and I like it! In fact, one of my favorite guilty pleasures is the Real Housewives of Atlanta. This past season was especially fun for me because former child star Kim Fields was added to the cast.

Okay … soooo … I have another confession. When I was a kid, I was a Tootie groupie! I even wrote a fan letter (my first and only) telling her how great I thought she was.  Do you know she never wrote back?!! I admit it. My little pre-pubescent feelings were hurt.  But I’ll save the details of that confession for another day.

Anyway, during one of the season’s early episodes, Kim and co-star Phaedra Parks met for a play date with their kids. While chatting, Kim revealed that she sometimes struggled with the demands of being a full-time working professional, mom and wife. She talked about how she had “lost Kim.”

Kim went on to say that so much of her time and energy had been spent on being a “superwoman,” that she no longer knew how to feel good about the way she looked. She had become stuck in a style rut.

Now, I know the majority of situations we see on “reality” television are actually scripted, but this particular scene really resonated with me because Kim’s confession sounded so very familiar. It seems whenever I post about personal style, I get the inevitable comments from women who tell me that it’s just not a priority for them because they’re so busy living life.

No judgment here, but I’m a huge believer in the notion that people make time for the things that are important to them. So, I have to wonder if those ladies who say they’re too busy to think about anything beyond a t-shirt and jeans aren’t actually using it as an excuse because they really don’t understand the true meaning of personal style.

Regardless of which category you find yourself in, you may be surprised to learn that developing a style that’s all your own really isn’t all that hard. In fact, a great sense of style starts with something each and every person on the planet already has. It’s called an imagination. And, the only requirement is a higher degree of open-mindedness.

Depending on where you fall on the style spectrum, getting started may be easier for some than it is for others. So, to help, I’ve put together a list of five easy things you can do right now to help you break free if you’re stuck in a style rut:

  1. Pay more attention to your surroundings. From the colors in the sky, to the leaves on the ground, and everything in between; inspiration – quite literally – is all around you. Ask yourself what resonates with you the most: colors, textures, shapes, etc. Use this knowledge to trigger your creativity.
  1. The next time you see someone with a great sense of style, ask yourself what it is about their look you like so much and what elements you might be able to replicate or incorporate into your own wardrobe.
  1. Take note of the things that “speak” to you. Your inspiration might be an image from a blog, your favorite magazine or social media site. Use this as an opportunity to free your mind and think beyond the boundaries of your normal “comfort zone.”
  1. Make a list of every outfit you wore last week. What elements of each ensemble would you change or tweak to upgrade the look?

5.  If all of your clothes were lost as a result of a fire, flood, tornado or whatever, what 10 items would you replace first?

See what I mean about using your imagination? Let me know what you think about my short list by leaving a comment below.

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14 thoughts on “Stuck in a style rut? Here are 5 easy things you can do right now to break free”

  1. I am SO in a style rut! I never thought to look for inspiration before- I just usually ask my teen daughter to go shopping with me lol You can bet I’m going to use your tips and take more notice- thanks for the advice!

  2. These are some great tips! I often have a wander around when I am in a style rut – taking inspiration from surroundings but also from other people on the street – it’s nice to see how other people style things!

    Lottie xx

  3. These are good things to think about. I especially like the bit about replacing 10 things. Maybe this will help me clear out my closet for some new pieces.

  4. I really appreciated these tips. I have been trying hard to incorporate color and step out of my comfort zone, but it is very difficult. I think it is about time to go through that closet and do a little cleaning of a few things. Too often I have done some of the things you have noted especially the one about not enough time.

    • Yes ma’am! You know that you want more color and to step out of your comfort zone. In my opinion, you’re already ahead of the game!

  5. One thing I like now is that almost anything goes! Take what you have and change your accessories, it makes a big difference! I added a different necklace to a suit that I always wear and got so many compliments because I changed the jewelry. I like your comment about thinking beyond your comfort zone! People watch and magazine watch and create your own style! It’s Your Style…Find it, Enhance it, Wear it by Jessica Renea!

  6. These are fabulous ideas! I recently got a part time job at a fashion store so I’m really learning to up my fashion game right now.

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