Since launching Sisterladygirl, I’ve learned a lot about how women actually see themselves and I have to admit, its a little disappointing: “My boobs are too big, this color won’t look good on me, I’m too old to wear this.” The negative self images we’ve cultivated as a result of our obsession with looking a certain way is overwhelming, unrealistic and frankly exhausting! When I was younger, I didn’t understand it the way I do now, but I always knew what appealed to me. I just lacked the conviction to show it.
I think that’s one of the reasons I’ve always been such a Lisa Bonet fan. She opted out of the stereotype of what a woman should look like. She wore whatever she wanted however she wanted. She was her most authentic self and she gave less than two damns how other people felt about it.
Now, I’m not suggesting that we all run out, shave our heads and start piercing and tattooing ourselves as a big F-U to conventional society. What I am saying is that we each have something unique and beautiful to offer and we should embrace it. I don’t think it’s okay to give so much power to the fashion industry by allowing them to tell us who we are. I feel like one of the greatest things I’ve learned on my blogging journey is I am not what I see.
I’m not a 20-something anymore. So I certainly don’t want to look like one. Instead I’m aiming to be the dopest 40-something I can possibly be. Honestly, there’s nothing more beautiful than that.
Do I have my moments? Of course, everyone does. But I’ve always believed that building character is 10 percent of what happens to you and 90 percent of how you handle it. I don’t know about you, but I’ll take those odds any day of the week. And, I’ll trust and believe they’ll continue to be be in my favor.