What being more observant has taught me

Oftentimes, we associate observation with vision — literally using our eye sight to take in the world around us. But, being a good observer is far deeper than that. Being observant requires us to use our brains in a way that allows us to experience the the world not just on a physical level, but an emotional one too.

Observation has helped me understand that there are people I regularly encounter who refuse to accept me for me and will attribute every action (no matter how slight) or perceived mistake (no matter how small) I make as the total sum of my character.

The inability or outright refusal to see the goodness in others is a result of our own personal limitations, not anyone else’s. And, I’ve recently come to the conclusion that I’m no longer willing to take on the responsibility of helping others be comfortable with who they’ve made me out to be.

I’m an imperfect human being, but I own my shortcomings and I work to improve them. I’m constantly self-checking my actions, my language, and the type of vibes I’m releasing into the universe to make sure I’m seeing past the hurt that someone may have caused me, or the differences in opinions or methodologies we may have had. It’s exhausting work, but it’s so important for personal growth.

It’s inevitable that we will sometimes hurt others, and they’ll sometimes hurt us. But, I always say we are mirrors and will be better versions of ourselves when we start seeing the best in others.

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4 thoughts on “What being more observant has taught me”

  1. I totally agree with you on this. I’m so happy to mature and get this type of understanding and insight on the way see things. Thank you for sharing!

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