The day I decided enough was enough

Lately, I’ve been reading a lot about female friendships and it got me thinking about mine — one toxic one in particular. 

The path to a happier, healthier version of myself began when I decided enough was enough. The sideways glances, the passive aggressive shade thinly masked as “jokes”, the constant competition — it had all started to take a toll on my emotional well being.

I wanted out. So, you know what I did? I left. No explanation, no teary-eyed goodbye, no looking back. Just silence. I had had enough.

For my own peace of mind, a clean extrication was necessary. It was the most loving and forgiving thing I could have done. And, I don’t regret it. Sometimes the healthiest relationship you can have with someone is none at all.

I’ve always said that one of the most beautiful things about aging is the wisdom that comes with it. I realize now that those you start with don’t have to be those you finish with. We all have choices and I exercised mine.

The separation has allowed me to focus more on developing and nurturing other, more positive relationships in my life. For that, I’ll be forever grateful.

I’m lucky to have some extremely supportive SisterLadyGirls in my circle!

The day I decided enough was enough also was the day I decided to take back my own story and finally stop apologizing for the edits I actively chose to make to it.

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8 thoughts on “The day I decided enough was enough”

    • Walking away did take courage because I, in effect, declared that I wanted a different path. Change is oftentimes scary, but in my case, it was necessary. Thanks for your comment. 🙂

  1. I commend you for this because I was still living for my friends letting them dictate the decisions I make for myself to fit into what they deemed acceptable. You are so right you have to let it go and good for you being able to just cut it off and not look back. It’s funny how much more we love ourselves as we get older.

  2. Sacha, I’m so glad this post resonated with you. I realized I’m not responsible for making someone feel comfortable with me. Real friends don’t do that to each other. It was eye opening and empowering.

  3. Love this Quin. I had to do this years ago with a friend that I’d know since I was 15 years old. I had enough and just walked away, no explanation, nothing and I’ve never regretted it. I knew then it was the right decision.

  4. I recently walked away from a toxic friendship as well. Sad thing is I walked away twice before from the same person, and then let her back in to my life. (She told me she missed me, and I was her only friend. Guilt. Gah!!) But like you said about becoming wiser with age, I know I cannot continue to do that and be at my happiest and healthiest. The relationship was just not a good one.

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